Dear Annie: My husband won’t stop embarrassing me in front of our friends
I'm tired of being my husband's comedy routine for 12 years.
Liam Carter 
After 12 years of marriage, one reader is hitting their limit regarding a husband who treats their relationship like an open-mic set. The writer, signing off as Tired of the Comedy Show, explains that every dinner party with friends turns into a repetitive stand-up routine where they are the punch line.
When the Joke Goes Stale
Whether it’s a story about the 2017 Thanksgiving rolls or the time they backed into the garage, the husband seems to live for the spotlight and the laughs that follow. While the writer sometimes smiles along just to keep the peace, they admit to feeling a persistent, deep-seated annoyance.
When confronted, the husband often deflects, arguing that the writer was laughing at the time. The reader contends that this performative laughter is simply a social survival tactic to avoid making the room uncomfortable, yet the husband continues to dismiss these concerns.
Annie Lane’s Take
Annie Lane notes that while the husband may view himself as charming, his material has long since lost its luster. Jokes that turn a spouse into a target aren't just unfunny; they are inconsiderate after being told for the hundredth time. Lane emphasizes that a partner should not be playing dumb—teasing is only acceptable when it is mutually enjoyed, and a truly loving partner should be able to quit once they realize the humor has faded.
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