Miss Manners: Is it rude to leave the opera during curtain calls instead of applauding?
An opera patron is bothered by audience members who gather their belongings and rush toward the exits as soon as the final curtain begins to drop, finding it rude to both remaining patrons and the performers.
Liam Carter 
Is it a breach of etiquette to head for the exits the moment the curtain falls at the opera? One 205focus.com reader recently wrote in, expressing frustration over patrons who aggressively shuffle down the aisles during the final curtain calls, viewing the behavior as an insult to both fellow audience members and the performers who have shared their talents for hours.
The Debate Over Early Departures
While the reader admitted to feeling the urge to intervene, Miss Manners offered a more measured perspective. She noted that while such behavior can be frustrating, one must account for the realities of modern life—perhaps a pressing deadline like a train to catch or a babysitter to relieve. When the final curtain drops, the performance is technically concluded. Clapping serves as an audience reaction rather than a mandatory show of gratitude, and the expectation of a standing ovation has become increasingly common due to grade inflation.
Courtesy in the Aisles
Miss Manners reminded readers that if you have ever expected others to shift aside so you could reach your seat after a performance has begun, you should extend that same level of patience to those departing early. Disruptive behavior is rarely the answer, and a bit of grace goes a long way in a crowded theater.
Navigating Curtain Calls and Standing Ovations
Another reader raised concerns about the timing of standing ovations, particularly at children's school performances, where early standing can block the view for shorter audience members. Miss Manners emphasized a clear distinction between professional productions and school events. In professional settings, the audience is reacting to the quality of the show, whereas in amateur or school contexts, the goal is often to provide encouragement and support for the performers.
For those looking for guidance, Miss Manners suggests that programs or pre-show announcements can help set the tone for proper theater etiquette. She continues to provide advice through her website at missmanners.com or via email at dearmissmanners@gmail.com.
