Dear Abby: I stopped looking for a relationship and keep a distance from most people
A 32-year-old single gay man says he is no longer looking for a relationship and has grown increasingly comfortable keeping most people at a distance. He says he has become less trusting of others, including his employers, and wants Abby’s thoughts.
Liam Carter 
A 32-year-old single gay man reached out to Abigail Van Buren with a candid confession: he has stopped pursuing romantic relationships and prefers to keep most people at arm's length. Over the last three to five years, the reader explained that managing his own personal challenges has left him with little capacity for the drama of others.
A Shift in Trust
The reader, who works as a long-distance truck driver, noted that his hesitation extends beyond his social life into his professional sphere. He admitted to a growing lack of trust in people generally, including his current employers. Seeking a fresh perspective, he asked for Abby’s take on his increasingly solitary lifestyle.
Abby’s Advice
Abby reminded the reader that at 32, he still has a vast future ahead of him. She expressed concern over his admitted lack of trust, noting that while the source of his guardedness wasn't clear, human connection remains vital.
Her recommendation is to seek professional guidance by visiting a local LGBTQ community center to speak with a therapist. She also advised him to reevaluate his professional environment; if he feels he must constantly look over his shoulder, a change in company or even career might be necessary for his well-being.
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Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
